There are days – weeks even – when I wonder how I ended up here: Mother, homeowner, voter, composter. It’s all just so grown-up and yet I don’t feel much different now than I did when I was 15 years-old. Becoming an adult is a gradual process, one that we generally recognize as starting with certain milestones like being able to vote or legally ordering a beer. Then, gradually, the responsibilities get bigger and a little more serious and start involving the welfare of people other than ourselves.
Here are some of the big signs you’re now an adult and the “good ole days” of being irresponsible are long gone:
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You Wear a Toque Willingly
When I moved to Ottawa, I was 30 years-old and yet I’d only been dipping my toes into adulthood. It was when I willingly put on a toque, preceded by long underwear, wool socks and completely unfashionable but highly functional boots, that I realized there was no going back to the carefree days of youth and freezing for the sake of fashion. The ability to recognize that being cold is stupid, not cool is what separates us from our 15 year-old selves. It’s also a very real sign you’ve entered adulthood for good. (But it’s warm here; so it’s a happy place.)
You Buy Insurance
I remember my parents dreading the annual insurance salesman visit. It was the most sombre my house ever got because BORING. Thankfully, while buying insurance is definitely a sign of adulthood, the industry has evolved due to the interwebs. Painful in-house or in-person visits are a thing of the past. iSure.ca is a digital leader in the insurance industry and allows Canadians to choose the best insurance company for them online. Since iSure is 100% independent — unlike many of it’s online competitors — you can rest assured you’re getting the best rate possible, which is a very adult thing to do. If you need some handholding, as adults still do occasionally, iSure is available to chat online or over the phone.
Two Words: Tax Forms
Sure, you paid taxes when you were young, (or were supposed to) but somebody always did the math for you. The first time you figure it out all on your own is another nail in the house that adulting built.
Friday Night is Now an Excuse to Get a Good Night’s Sleep
You used to leave the house at 11pm on a Friday night to hit the clubs. Oh, man. That’s just crazy talk nowadays. As an adult you’ve already been in bed for two hours by that time. Going to bed early AND willingly is perhaps the most convincing sign you’ve entered into adulthood.
You Buy a Minivan
…or some similarly minded car. What you know for sure is that the days when you looked at nothing more than speed and stereo options are long gone. Now you’re looking at crash impact ratings, litres per kilometre, and if there’s enough room for a stroller, a hockey bag, and groceries in the back. Of course, you’re going to want to make sure you have the best insurance possible on this baby, so off you go. Go do this adulting thing right and get a quote from iSure.
You Write a Will
When my husband and I met with a lawyer to write our wills, I cried the entire time. To say that our lawyer was uncomfortable would be an understatement. I was such a mess with my red eyes and runny nose, you would have thought I was attending my own funeral, and well I was (or at least it felt that way). Acknowledging your death and deciding what life will look like after you’re gone is terrifying and probably the most adult of all adult things you will do. You will be scared, but you do it anyway. That’s being a adult.
You Order a Salad Instead of Fries
Perhaps the harshest reality check of adulthood is realizing that there’s a direct correlation between what you put in your mouth and your health. You start to pay attention to things like your BMI, blood pressure, and heart rate. Burdened with the weight of all this knowledge you order a side salad instead of fries. It’s all most too much to bear.
School’s Out Forever
The moment you realize you will never have to spend another weeknight hunched over a textbook is perhaps the most liberating feeling a person can have and is a sure sign you are on your way to confirmed adulthood. It’s only when you start spending your weeknights hunched over your children’s homework though that you’ve become an adult forever. Oh the humanity!
You Use a Budget
Sure, sure, you’ve heard the word “budget” thrown around before, but when you actually sit down and write out a budget, things are getting real. Worse still is when you realize those cute shoes don’t have a place in your budget. (Plus, they’d never be warm enough for an Ottawa winter.)
When Appliances Get You Hot
Who here covets new washers and vacuum cleaners? That’s a litmus test for adulthood. I recently bought a dishwasher with a third rack in it, and I will neither confirm nor deny that my husband got lucky later that day, because adults are classy that way. I will say that the way to an adult’s heart is when you talk “direct drives” and “cyclonic suction” instead of diamonds.