I have struggled with where to pick up the thread to tell this story, because as with all divorce stories, it’s complicated. If I tug on one small piece the entire ball of yarn tumbles to the ground and any sense of cohesion is lost. Then there’s the absolutely mind-boggling number of events that have occurred over the last 3.5 years that would make telling this story almost as long as the process itself. I could start with the day I left, when I came home and found two women in swimsuits …
Going Back to School at 50 – There is no Deadline for Learning
I'm going back to school at 50. Let's file this under, "Words I never thought I'd utter" for $400 Alex. Like most things in my life over the last year or so though, I've come to accept that it's best to follow my instinct and chase what my heart wants. In this case in particular, I've never been more eager to embrace something in my entire life. Divorce has been like a tsunami for me. The ground beneath me shook violently, followed by a temporary and deceptive calm as the water pulled …
Tinder is a Dumpster Fire, Save Yourself the Download
Ugh, the dating scene. Of all the places I want to be right now, dating is ranked just above colonoscopies and root canals. I am completely and utterly apathetic about love and relationships at the moment, which means there is no better time to do a deep dive into Tinder. My cynicism is high and my caring is low. With nothing but time on my hands for about a week, I threw a pity party for one and wallowed in bed with potato chips and Tinder. I am here to tell you ladies that while it …
I Have a Freaking Lilac Tree
I have a freaking lilac tree. This news came as quite a surprise to me today, as I was sitting in my backyard doing a deep dive on my feelings. I’ve become a real free diver in this lately, letting feelings, like actual feelings wash over me. Head down, writing down attempt #99 of defining my life purpose, I was getting frustrated with the process and decided to take a break. I rebelliously left my flip-flops off to walk barefoot in the grass. Oooh, look at me getting all hippy dippy and one …
Coping Strategies After Separation – The First 90 Days
In the first days after leaving my marriage, I turned to Dr. Google and typed “coping strategies after separation” and I ended up reading about “white bears” and rolling my eyes at platitudes like “be kind with yourself”. Seriously? I needed slightly less abstract and much more detailed than that. I wanted an actionable step that would bring me instant comfort like, “Make a voodoo doll of your ex and stick 1000 pins in it…..hard.” But noooooo, the internet in all its infinite wisdom offered up, …
