My family and I can discuss death in general terms; in a there’s two things certain in life —death and taxes kind of way — but the nitty gritty? That’s hard. An only child, my parents have removed much of the guess work for me by arranging their own end of life plan. From what I can glean, I just need to show up, and considering I’m crying just typing this, that might be best. On the opposite end of the spectrum, I can’t imagine leaving my children behind. When my husband and I visited …