first 90 days after separation

In the first days after leaving my marriage, I turned to Dr. Google and typed “coping strategies after separation” and I ended up reading about “white bears” and rolling my eyes at platitudes like “be kind with yourself”. Seriously? I needed slightly less abstract and much more detailed than that. I wanted an actionable step that would bring me instant comfort like, “Make a voodoo doll of your ex and stick 1000 pins in it…..hard.” But noooooo, the internet in all its infinite wisdom offered up, …