Blurred Lines

This song Blurred Lines has been getting lots of airplay lately and I gotta tell you I’ve been really digging the song. You know, just bopping along to the beat, learning the lyrics. Tonight I decided to Shazam it and see who was singing it and had to double check my phone when Robin Thicke came up. ‘Scuse me? Robin Thicke, as in, spawn of Alan Thicke? Doesn’t he sing lounge music or something?

Obviously, this has to be my song of the day if only because I’m loving the song AND it’s got the whole Alan Thicke connection going on. But wait……this story doesn’t get happy. In fact, if I thought the last video I posted for Beautiful was bad, then this video is just beyond anything I could have imagined and is why the internet is so messed up. When searching Blurred Lines the first video to pop up was this version. I debated about posting it but I really want your opinion on this. It is so degrading to women I just have no words.

Here is the “clean” version of the video that still manages to objectify women, just with slightly more clothing involved.

Just in the interest of piecing it all together, I decided to go look at the lyrics and figure out the parts I couldn’t quite make the words out to.

Exhibit A: What do we need steam for, You the hottest bitch in this place

Exhibit B: Lemme be the one you back that ass up to
From Malibu to Paris boo
Had a bitch, but she ain’t bad as you
So, hit me up when you pass through
I’ll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two

Exhibit C: Pull a Pharcyde bitch, you’re passin’ me by
Nothin’ like your last guy, he too square for you
He don’t smack that ass and pull your hair for you
So I’m just watchin’ and waitin’
For you to salute the truly pimpin’
Not many women can refuse this pimpin’
I’m a nice guy, but don’t get confused, you git’n it!

So, it appears that Alan Thicke, famed TV dad of Kirk Cameron on Growing Pains, raised a misogynist. Awesome.

So, I’m going to get all Tipper Gore on you here. This is exactly the kind of shit, and there’s really no other word for it, that makes me fear for my daughters. The message this sends to young people is simply twisted. Blurred lines indeed.

Just to balance this whole thing out, I offer up the trailer of Miss Representation as a small reminder that we can’t let this stuff slide. Our daughters and sons deserve better than this tripe the media feeds them, because this video wasn’t made with me, the 43 year old mother in mind. Nope, it was made for teens and tweens, your kids, the consumers of this message. Readily available under a “safe search” on Google.

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  1. says

    OK, so. I had been loving on this song for weeks, never even undertsanding that he was saying “blurred lines.” I realized I was never listening to the lyrics, just the beat. With Mary J’s yell in the background (from another uptempo song I loved) and a Marvin Gaye Got To Give It Up reminiscent beat, I was in love. And then. Then I bought it from iTunes because MUST DANCE ALL THE TIME, NEED THAT SONG. That one line made me stop: You the hottest bitch in this place. Huh. I guess they changed it for radio. No matter, I can just not sing that part even though now it’s dropped a notch on my likeometer. Then I found myself ALWAYS turning it off before TI’s rap part. Worse? It wasn’t WHAT he was saying; it was the fact that he seems incapable of pronouncing the letter “s”. It irked me to the point where I was cringing, so I wouldn’t listen. But the one day I did BECAUSE MY NINE YEAR OLD WAS SINGING IT. Then I went all shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiid, that ain’t hapnin and told her that while yes, they scored a hit with that infectious beat, the lyrics were just so unnecessarily misogynistic that we can’t listen to it anymore. I haven’t seen the video (I’m at work and can’t see it now) and truthfully have no desire to.

    • Candace says

      Don’t waste your time with the video. It’s much like the song, degrading to women. As I said to another on this page, I hope that in the future if someone calls one of my daughter’s a “hot bitch” they are disgusted not flattered.

  2. says

    Oh my goodness! This song was finally warming on me but now I will definitely be turning it off/changing the channel when it comes on the radio in the car. It is really crazy that when you start looking up the lyrics to your favourite songs, how different the song is from what you thought it was.

    I saw something like this on Facebook or Twitter today… “nothing like finding out a song is totally not kid friendly when your {black} year old starts singing the inappropriate lyrics.” And that is so true because it has happened to me and my kid!

    • Candace says

      I think it’s very easy to love a song and not really know what they’re saying half the time. What amazes me though is that very often my kids can make out the lyrics when I can not. And even if they don’t understand the concepts behind it, the message is being delivered earlier and earlier.

  3. says

    Why are the men fully dressed while the women prance around naked. And also, the lyrics and meaning of the song really seems to follow the theme of current erotic literature, (which is written by women) where the strong, handsome, ‘bad boy’ gets the good girl to do sexual things that she didn’t think she wanted to do, but enjoys them when she finally lets go. So, in that context, the theme is not as wrong as we think. 

    Notwithstanding that, I do not like the idea of ‘blurred lines’. There are none. No means no. And the gender inequality of the nudity is unacceptable to me.

    I’ve got three teenagers, and much of my time is spent addressing conceptual issues to fight these messages they hear and see in their music. Also, I’m glad my daughter left her hip hop dance company and decided against pursuing any type of professional dance career.  Even if it was for work, I wouldn’t want her being in any of the current music videos.

    • Candace says

      I laughed a little today when someone suggested that I put my kids in a bubble. Umm, no. They’ve heard this song repeatedly and we’ve discussed the lyrics. I’m a little appalled that “bitch” gets thrown around so easily today like it’s calling someone by their name or something. I’ve also discussed the video with my kids and what it shows. They have not seen it because they are 10 and 8. Even so, my 8 year old asked why the men weren’t naked and the woman fully clothed? She thought that would be rather funny.

      As far as following current erotic literature for women, I see what you’re saying but I hope that kids under 14….god, even 16, I know I sound so old now, don’t have their hands on those books yet. So when they come across this video on the internet they aren’t thinking like you are Mara. They are seeing images and wondering what this means for them as girls, as I’m sure boys are processing what it means for them.

      Much to another readers disappointment I’m sure, I don’t have my kids bubble wrapped. I talk to them incessantly about the images and messages they are being sent through today’s media. It’s the only thing we can do. Hell, they can go ahead and love the song but I want them to know what the message being sent is. I hope that when they’re older and a guy walks up and calls them a “hot bitch” that they’re disgusted not flattered.


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